“IT IS WHAT IT IS!”

You either love or hate this saying. You either don’t get it or say it all the time.

I understand both sides:

On one hand, it’s a defeatist saying; it implies that nothing can change. It puts power into the hands of something or someone outside of yourself. It makes you give up.

On the other hand, it allows you to exhale and accept that THINGS ARE THE WAY THEY ARE. You have no choice but to see the situation for what it is and, in all humility, let go of trying to change it or control the outcome.

But how about a combination of both?

First, ACCEPTANCE: You can’t get out of the sinking mud if you do not realize and accept the fact that yes, you are in the mud! From there, you can choose to ACT in the most appropriate way to create change.

In the mud scenario, you can yell for help, reach for a branch, etc. But you can’t do that if you’re in denial about your current reality. Who, me, in the mud? No way!!!

Acceptance does not necessarily imply DOING NOTHING. Sometimes (often) there is something that can be done, something that can change, or some Grace that can befall you if you let it. So, yes, it IS what it is, but it doesn’t have to stay that way.